It is with great sorrow we morn the loss of one of our Physicians, Dr. William Middleton. Dr. Middleton lost his battle with cancer this past Saturday. We are comforted by his peaceful passing while at home with his family. All who knew Dr. Middleton knew his kind heart and endearing spirit. He was a dedicated member of Alcoholics Anonymous and Sponsor for 32 years, He was devoted to those whom struggled with Addiction and recently was certified by The American Board of Addiction Medicine. He is survived by his five children, Courtney, Britany, Bryce, Victoria and William, as well as his Sister Jan and Partner Anne. Our prayers are with you during this troubling time. We hold close his memory and remember the light he brought into any room.
The police department in Ohio released these photos of an unconscious couple who overdosed on heroin with a 4-year-old boy in the car with this message: "We feel it necessary to show the other side of this horrible drug. We feel we need to be a voice for the children caught up in this horrible mess."
10 Things I Learned the Hard Way: Part II
X Embrace your shape:
All our experiences & collisions carve into us, shape us in new ways. Society will paint that as damage and that you should spend your lifetime trying to fix and restore yourself back to some idealized shape. Think instead of a block of clay. If someone or some thing carves a giant gash into it, instead of trying to fix it, use it as a starting point to become a masterpiece that you might not have become otherwise.
X Shame is a cage:
Shame will isolate you so that it can abuse you with all kinds of lies about yourself and reasons why you can’t have things that feel good. The bars of this cage are so thick & strong that you can spend your whole life trapped in that cage. Your voice will set you free. The moment you begin to speak up about the things that are holding you hostage, you realize people love you anyway and you set your own self free. Shame is ultimately a calling to become your own hero.
X Don’t recreate the crime scene:
I remember the day I felt like I woke up in my life. I was horrified to realize I somehow managed to recreate every detail of the chaos, anxiety, and instability that I grew up in. I had unknowingly recreated the entire crime scene of my worst injuries in explicit detail. That realization was the beginning of a long journey to creating a brand new landscape to live in.
X Practicing curiosity will overcome fear:
Curiosity is a powerful way to attach to something on the other side of the wall of fear. The more you deliberately grow curiosity, the more that wall diminishes.
X The fire we need is never ignited in the way we expect:
Magic is not pretty pixie dust. Magic is often a dark, ugly, merciless, m*thr f*kr, who will continue to break you, until you Become. We need a certain type of fire to be lit within us, in order to live out the most fulfilling version of our life- and that fire is seldom lit through comfortable events.
X Wake up in your life:
Zoom way out & have the courage to look at the greater picture of your existence. If this is the only chance you get to be on this remarkable planet, are you really living the experience you want to have? I have a list from a few years ago that was intended to be a short inventory of things I hated about my life. It ended up being 134 things! I initially collapsed under that realization, and it was far from easy, but over time I have changed every single one of those things. You can too. If you think you can’t, the next one is for you:
X Hope is the beginning of any great journey:
The belief that no matter where you are, you can find your way to brighter days is the greatest personal power. It can carry you through anything. You already have hope whether you realize it or not, or you wouldn’t still be here. So much of the things in this world diminish it within us, and you have to actually practice cultivating it so that it amplifies, and eventually begins to vibrate outwards, lighting up yourself and the world. I would rather die full of hope for incredibly unrealistic & foolish things, having gone on all the colorful adventures that unfolded as a result, than to have lived a dreary life of believing only in things that have been proven.
X Develop substance:
Everything external fades, and if that is your main source of validation every passing year will be harder for you. It is exceptionally hard as we are bombarded all day long with ideals about what we should be to be worthy of love. If you continually build yourself into a person that you admire, respect, and find interesting, you will have a solid core that can only grow more beautiful as time passes.
X Get clear on your definitions because what you believe steers your ship:
The conscious mind processes information at 40 bits of info/sec.The subconscious mind processes 20,000,000 bits of info/sec! All day long in countless ways what you believe, is guiding you. Usually we are not fully conscious of what our definitions are.They are some kind of ill-fitting patchwork thrown together by ideas passed down from previous generations, stuff from movies, brainwashing from oppressive attitudes in society and damaging messages from previous relationships, etc. One of the most powerful things you can do in designing a life that feels good is to get clear on what definitions of virtually everything personally suit You. What is your definition of a friend? A relationship? A partner? Love? Etc.. When you develop that clarity, your ship begins to automatically steer towards those things.
X Give your darkness space:
A rainbow that only shows the warm colors, isn’t reality and it isn’t as beautiful. It’s not even a rainbow. If you only make space for those colors, you are missing the full spectrum of who you are... and also all the brilliance of what it means to be human.
When you deny the story, it owns you.
When you own the story, you get to write the ending!
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